Crazymakers In Your Life

I had plans to review two books and write articles about each
one, but my plans were derailed by a Crazymaker.

Ah, so why not write an article about Crazymakers and
Crazymaking?

The scenario involved a family member, as do many cases
although bosses,
co-workers and friends can just as easily be the people
carrying the
Crazymaking gifts.

I use the word gifts because these situation have the
potential to help you
stand your own ground, stay firm within your own
boundaries and to allow
people to act out their own stuff, realizing it is just
that:
projections of pain and suffering (right into YOUR lap),
fragments
from the past, fear of the future and even death.

I first heard the term Crazymakers in "The Artist's Way"
by Julia
Cameron. Since that time, the antennae are always on the
alert for situations
that take me away from my writing.

According to Julia Cameron: "Crazymakers are those
personalities that
create storm centers. They are often charismatic,
frequently charming,
highly inventive and powerfully persuasive. And for the
creative person in their
vicinity, they are enormously destructive.

"Crazymakers create dramas--but seldom where they belong.
Crazymakers
are often blocked creatives themselves. Afraid to
effectively tap their
own creativity, they loath to allow that same creativity
in others. It makes
them jealous. It makes them threatened. It makes them
threatened at your expense."

Ah yes, you are entitled to your opinions, judgments and
reactions but do not
expect me to save you from yourself, says I.

I have an appointment with the clean blank white page.

You don't have to like what I write.

You don't have to read what I write.

But I am happy to say, I will keep on writing no matter
what.

And as Julia Cameron also says, "I practice what I preach:
If you dump drama
into my life, I will put it, and you, onto the page."

Why would I do this? because Crazymakers don't have to
cause us to question our
motives, our art or our integrity as a person.

I have an appointment with the moment at hand that leads
me to pick up the
fountain pen of choice, and to joyfully write exactly what
inspires me at that time.

This is my unwavering committment: with the pen, the
paper, the text editor and
keyboard.

Synchronistically, I picked up a book on the subject:
"Dealing With the Crazymakers In
Your Life," by Dr. David Hawkins.

Crazymakers can "hook" you if you are unaware. Awareness
and alert consciousness will help
to shorten the time you are effected by this venom.

The following 10 keys will help you deal with the
Crazymakers in your life:

1) Realize that by reacting negatively to the Crazymakers
you strengthen that
negativity within yourself.

2) If you condemn the Crazymaker, you are displacing
negativity onto the Crazymaker which
she/he has already done to you.

3) Labeling a Crazymaker a Crazymaker may help at first to
identify
the upsetting situation but to successfully detach and
unhook from the situation,
you need to move beyond the labels by grounding yourself
in the breath and
the here and now.

4) By detaching from the label of Crazymaker and from the
Crazymaker herself,
you allow yourself to settle into your core, your essence
and gain peace of mind
in the situation.

5) If you feel hurt or even crazy by the situation,
realize that you have created a
mental image of yourself and a story about yourself that
now wants to defend against
perceived accusation.

6) When you realize that you are reacting with your egoic
mind (based upon past conditioning),
you naturally begin the process of forgiveness of yourself
(because you reacted)
and also for the Crazymaker, who was doing the best she
knew how to do in that moment.

7) Disidentify with the need to be right within the
situation. Whatever you are engaged in,
whatever makes you feel more alive, get back to that
project.

8) After becoming conscious about how you've been hooked
by the Crazymaker, sit with
yourself in silence and feel the inner spaces, the
stillness, and reconnect with the
consciousness that heals all wounds.

9) Walk in nature, write in your journal, unhook from the
guilt and from the need to
defend.

10) Lastly, you have an appointment with the Joy of
Living; find that joy; elevate
your vibrations, turn off the TV.

Be alive to the happiness that already exists, and when
you do, you have come
home to your True Self.

Kate Loving Shenk

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Comments

[kate loving shenk]

Crazymakers are a part of any one's life.

But no one has to cave into the negativity.

My hope is that people will have an Aha moment with this, and learn to look inwardly for strength and guidance and cease the finger pointing and blame that a Crazymaker usually elicits with people.

[Rebecca Briggs]

Kate,

Beautiful and poetic.

Think about how glorious the world would be if everyone treated everyone else with such detachment and love!

[Joan]

Wonderful! Glad to have an appropriate label for the crazymakers in my life. Bless em and release em!
Best advice I ever received -- Never take anyone's problems more seriously than they are willing to take them themselves.
Amen and Amen! Great post!

[marilyn robertson]

Good advice Kate. Yes, Crazymakers can through you off-focus really easy. My own routine is to send loving/healing thoughts their way as I regain my own calm, and do a little tapping to help me release the pain they have tried to 'gift' me. It is not easy when they are loved ones, but yes, it must be done. You have made some good points and I am sure they will help people.

[kate loving shenk]

Thanks for the comments.

I believe tapping is a another good stradegy for eradicating the negativity --and eradicating it faster--so I thank you, Marilyn, for this helpful tip for dealing with the Crazymakers in all of our lives!

[Laura]

What a great article - I hadn't heard the term crazymakers before but I certainly have them in my life. And now, I'll know how to deal with them. Thanks for the advice!

[Bev Dunlap]

I have a crazymaker living right next door. Thank you for the lableling of these types of people. I was pulled in out of anger and had a nasty dispute with them. This is truly a blessing, running across this. I am beginning to calm down and realize just how truly blessed I am. I apprecieate the info. I am going to run for a pen and notebook and start a journal of all the many blessings I do have. Also plan on looking into the book mentioned.
Thanks so much!

[kate loving shenk]

Hi Bev--Yes, pause before reacting--always good advice!!

Cheers!!

Kate Loving Shenk